Specialities - in-person or online
We offer professional counselling in the areas described below to help you to find yourself, either in-person or online. Most of these concepts with detailed descriptions are outlined already by listening to our podcast - come join us!
Sexual Addiction
Sexual addiction is being addicted to any sexual behavior including lust (having a strong sexual desire, typically manifested by what one looks at or fantasizes about), pornography, masturbation, or sex. Addictions are unhealthy but temporary adaptive coping strategies that people use to feel better, or to deal with the effects of trauma or negative emotions. One can learn healthier ways to cope, and this is our goal.
Betrayal Trauma
This type of trauma occurs when a spouse experiences repeated denial, lies, manipulation, crazy making and other emotional and mental abuse from their partners who are attempting to cover up and conceal emotional, relational and/or sexual infidelity. Honesty is required on the part of the offending partner to help the betrayed partner slowly begin to build trust again. This is why we utilize disclosure with lie detector tests and then do follow-up maintenance tests as needed.
Disclosure with Lie Detection
Disclosure is the process of sharing all the information about your partner's sexual history. We include this in our couples recovery process but also do just the lie detector test with any couple seeking help that's working with a therapist. We utilize a lie detector test which helps this process in the following ways:
- It helps shorten the time frame of the recovery process by ending the game-playing
- It increases honesty around acting out behavior
- It helps validate the partner's feelings about what’s going on and provides information necessary to make important decisions
- It helps create an environment of suffering, pain, and acceptance that is a necessary part of developing safety, empathy, and rebuilding trust
- It increases their sense of self-worth as they come to understand they are still loved despite what they’ve done
There is a sexual history we provide that the partner would fill out, along with partner questions, before the lie detector test. We may also utilize lie detector maintenance tests every 6 months or so until the betrayed partner feels good about the relationship. Contact us if you have any questions about the process!
Couples Counseling
Couples counseling is focused on finding less effective patterns of communication and behavior. We then learn how to "opt-out" of those patterns and form new ones that effectively meet each other's needs, including re-establishing trust and safety in the relationship.
Anxiety & Depression
Anxiety and depression are often maladaptive responses to what's going on in our lives. We feel fearful or powerless and this creates a sense of hopelessness or doubt that can become pervasive and diminish our quality of life. We will work on establishing both physical and thinking habits that can bring health and wellness back and put you in control.
EMDR & ART
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy) are psychotherapies that enable people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences. They are often used for traumatic experiences and help you to move past what's happened without the distressing symptoms.
